MAGNETIC COUPLE (HIV Serodiscordant Couple)

i got this from www.thebody.com ------------


How to keep safer sex with partner having HIV..?
Jan 3, 2012
QUESTION: 
Is it possible to have happy sexual life even if having HIV..How to keep safer sex with partner having HIV..?

RESPONSE FROM SHANNON:  
YES it is truly possible to have a happy and healthy sex life with either or both partners being positive. Using protection is a must. Good communication is a must! Knowing your body is a must! My husband is negative and I'm positive and we have a great sex life and I know of many sero different couples or magnetic couples ( one positive and the other not) who have great sex lives as well as partners who are both positive. Making sure the person living with HIV is active with their treatment, seeing a doctor and if on medication is adherent (not missing any doses). Learning how to use a condom correctly and again communication with one another is huge. There is life after diagnosis and that does include a healthy and happy sex life.

i got this on my facebook today ------------

January 5, 2012
QUESTION FROM MICHAEL 
- are you having any luck with the person you have feelings for? you posted something about finding the person you are meant to be with the other day... I thought that was great.

RESPONSE FROM BONG 
- Still on the lookout --- it is not easy  but am very happy nonetheless. I have learned that my happiness should not be dependent on other people. I love myself and I am happy. Finding a partner is a bonus


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UPDATE:

i ended my short dating stint with someone - we went out twice - mabait sya super, pero when we started to get intimate napagusapan ang tungkol sa sex and he said - wala pa syang nagiging bf (at sex) dahil ayaw nya talaga at natatakot syang magka HIV -  just as i was at the brink of disclosing that day -  at the end, i decided he's not ready for me - iv chosen not to disclose - and the next day we called it quits - we're still good friends - i hope - but i miss that kiss  ;)

first try - failed

will try again

ito ang aking diary

BONG

CHLAMYDIA!

hi po ! I'm M 18 yrs . old from pasig..
may tanung po aq sau ..huhuhuhu :(
nkipag sex po kc aq sa foreigner last dec.3 this yr.
at nd po kme gumamit ng condom..
tas after that ... nagkaroon po aq ng rushes at lagnat.. dahil dun
nag pa check up aq sa derma. tas kweninto q ung ngyare sakin
tas sbi nya babalik daw aq after 3months sa march po un . pero pinakuha nya muna ung dugo ko at
ihi pra daw malaman nya kung saan nang gagaling ung lagnat ko ,. then after that
binigay q na ung result sa kanya then he said.. may CHLAMYDIA daw ako..
tas binigyan nya aq ng gamot na INOFLOX 2times a day for 5days..
pero ngaun po ubos na ung gamot.. but still I have fever and rushes.. huhuhuhu
anu po gagawin ko ?plss advice me .huhuhuhu
at takot po aqng mahawaan ang aking family,.
nakakahawa po ba un ? if possible na I have HIV?
is't possible na ..kahit may chlamydia aq ay mag HIV din? huhuhu

thanx po .. god bless

hello M,

maligayang bagong taon, natutuwa ako at may lakas ka ng loob na sumulat at magtanong...

--- Ang klamidia (Ingles: chlamydia) ay isang uri ng sakit na nakukuha sa pakikipagtalik na sanhi ng isang impeksyong bakterya. Lumalabas ang sakit na ito mula pito hanggang dalawampu’t isang araw pagkatapos na mahawa. Tinatawag din itong sakit na tulo. ----

mas makabubuting komunsulta ka kaagad sa isang Infectious Disease Doctor, at hindi sa dermatologist. mas specialization kasi nila ang STI at HIV. Dahil ang chlamydia ay isang STI (sexually transmitted infection) mas makakatulong ang isang infectious disease doctor sa iyo.

Gayundin ang pagkakaroon ng STI ay isa sa malaking risk factor for HIV kaya mas makakabuting magpa HIV testing ka na rin para malaman mo ang resulta kaagad, para maagapan.

ang pinakaaccessible na maaring puntahan ay ang mga Social Hygiene Clinics sa iyong siyudad o sa mga kalapit na siyudad na rin (kung saan ka mas malapit), karamihan sa kanila ay nagbibigay din ng libreng gamot para sa mga STI.

ito ang mga options mo:

Pasig City --- Social Hygiene Clinic
Dr. Rocylene Roque - Social Hygiene Clinic Physician
Address: Caruncho Ave., Brgy. San Nicolas, Pasig City / 6400111

Mandaluyong City --- Social Hygiene Clinic
Dr. Yolanda Tuaño - Social Hygiene Clinic Physician
Lerma corner Vicencio Sts., Old Zaniga, Mandaluyong City / 5467799; 2115336
Mobile #: 09178424298

makabubuting tumawag ka muna sa kanila para humingi ng direksyon at siguraduhing bukas sila.

para sa iba pa pumunta rito:  http://theloveyourselfproject.blogspot.com/p/hiv-test-sites.html

at palaging tatandaan na magsuot ng proteksyon ALL THE TIME.

salamat,

Bong

MGA TANUNG NI KOJIE

Hello Bong,

My name is KOJIE from pque 23. At my age, I also have the same blessing. Dont want to mention the magic word. I have so many thoughts in my mind. After knowing that I have obtained the blessing, my plans in life suddenly changed. I need some pieces of advice if its okay:

I planned to work abroad some day when I reach the age of at least 27-28 but knowing I have it I guess its no longer possible, can it be detected from my requirement?

I planned to establish my own family when I reach 30 but having it made me changed to stay single forever and not to put someone at risk and also to pass this on my child.

I decided to stay with my current job, just worried if it can be detected with CBC.

Sorry for the confusion, I am indeterminate and I have researched o  it and its going there after a month so I am just preparing myself. Will have to visit mid of Jan 2012.

Regards,
KOJIE

hello kojie,

maligaya ka sana ngayong pasko at bagong taon, alam ko na matapos ang ganitong 'bad news' eh medyo mas mahirap ng magpakasaya --- pero hindi imposible na sumaya pa tayo, if fact maraming dapat ipagpasalamat sa ating buhay at sangkaterba pa ang dahilan para maging masaya tayo.

working abroad ---  oo maaari ka pang makapagtrabaho abroad, pero hindi lahat ng bansa ay pwede, may mga bansang ipinagbabawal ang magtrabaho ang dayuhan na PLHIV (people living with HIV), makabubuting pag aralan mo muna ang batas ng bansang iyong gustong pagtrabahuhan at kung nagrerequire sila ng HIV testing.  sa US pwede pwede, sa Singapore at ibang Arab Countries hindi na pwede.   pero kung tourist visit lang naman, alam ko na pwede ka pa rin makapunta kahit saan mo gusto dahil wala namang bansa na nagrerequire ng HIV testing sa tourist visa applicants.

establishing a family --- oo maari ka pa ring magkaroon ng pamilya, dahil sa galing ng sensya ngayon ay maari ng magkaroon ng maayos na pamilya ang isang PLHIV.  hindi ito madali ngunit may mga pamamaraan kung paano maiiwasan ang mahawaan ang iyong asawa, gayundin ang inyong magiging anak.  maari kang magtanung sa mga duktor na espesyalista sa HIV/AIDS (sa mga treatment hubs) tungkol dito.

keeping current job ---  nakapaloob sa ating batas (Republic Act 8504) na bawal ang diskriminasyon gayundin ang pagtanggal sa trabaho ng dahil lamang na ang isang tao at PLHIV.  gayundin walang karapatan ang sinuman na pilitin ang isang tao para magpatest ng HIV.  dapat ito ay voluntary.  dahil dito walang kahit sinong kumpanya sa pilipinas ang makakapag-require ng HIV testing sa kanyang mga empleyado, ito ay labag sa batas sa ating karapatang pantao.  ang iyong HIV status ay hindi malalaman sa pamamagitan ng ibang mga blood test tulad ng CBC kaya wala kang dapat na ipangamba.  HIV test lang ang makakapagsabi nito.

indeterminate --- nangyayari ang ganitong resulta kung may mga pag-aalinlangan ang resulta ng ating mga test procedures, maaring hindi pa sapat ang mga antibodies sa iyong katawan (window period), at may iba pang kadahilanan.  mas makabubuting magpatest kang muli sa itinakdang panahon para malaman kung anu ang tunay na resulta.

maganda ang naghahanda.  hiling ko ay maging (negative) ang resulta ng iyong mga darating na tests pero nais ko ring ipaabot sa iyo na kahit positive man ang lumabas, hindi ito katapusan ng mundo.  goodluck sa iyo at sana ay matagpuan mo ang kapayapaan at katatagan ng kalooban ngayong bagong taon.

salamat

BONG

 

TIMELINE (without ARV treatment):

Positivism | In Sickness and in Health

GOD LOVES BAKLA

andito ako sa isang malayong lugar, mag isa lang ako, looking for directions, trying to find peace- i decided to bring ramond's book - matagal ko na rin gustong ipagpatuloy ang pagbabasa nito - raymond gave this personalized signed copy to me when we met in one event.

...at page 58 (god loves bakla), this caught my attention

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God, when i die, i'll have many questions to ask You, but there'll be a most important one which You'll really have to answer well. Because i could never see the logic of why You had done what You had done with me. The biggest burden a man could ever have is n my frail shoulders.  I don't want to fail my friends and family. I know you help those who help themselves, but it seems I can't already help myself.  I need a miracle, Jess. Please... (17 May 1984) - Raymond Alikpala
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p.s.  i'm a non practicing catholic ---  err... agnostic is more accurately i can define it. --- and if that's the case who do i turn to instead???

ito ang aking diary

BONG

KEEPING MY MOUTH SHUT!

sometimes dumadating sa buhay mo yung may nararamdaman kang pain sa iyong puso...

wala sa lugar pero yun ang nararamdaman mo...

sometimes parang gusto mong sumigaw...

pero wala kang magawa kasi sadyang mahina ka...

at maiisip mo na lang... you get what you deserve...

minsan parang andaming salita na gustong kumawala sa bibig mo...

pero alam mong mas nakabubuting itikom mo na lang ang iyong bibig...

dahil wala ka sa lugar...

pero punong puno pa rin ang iyong dibdib...

at wala kang gumawa kundi ang lumuha...

wala kang masabihan...

kahit kaibigan mo...

hay buhay...

tang-ina!

ganito pala yun...


ito ang aking diary

BONG

RE: DONATING BLOOD

Hi Bong,


I've started reading your blogs and i can feel na mahirap mabuhay sa sakit na HIV/AIDS, everytime na babsahin ko siya sinasamaan ako ng katawan ( seriously ) parang nahihilo ako and i cant explain yung feeling ko...hindi pa din ako nag papatest kasi im scared but every 3 months nag dodonate ako ng blood ko nakasanayan ko na un mag iisang taon na, wla p naman tumatawag sa akin from blood center... you think enough na un or need ko pa din mag pa HIV text ?


tnxs more power


GODBLESS


ken

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REPLY


thanks for you email ken.


need mo talagang magpatest separately. 


the blood testing centers for donated bloods are not allowed to inform or call the donor kung magpositive ang blood na tinetest nila, bawal sa batas yun. dinidispose lang nila yung blood pero di nila tatawagan ang concerned person (donor).


hiv test can only be done with consent - and in those cases you did not give consent to do hiv test on your blood. they are just doing the routinary hiv test for the purpose of protecting the recipient and making sure that the blood is safe. common misconception yan ng mga nagdonate ng blood. mabuti at nagtanung ka.


kaya mo yan, whether positive or negative ka man, you deserve to know ur status.  early detection is the key. hiv is not a death sentence. it only becomes a death sentence if you find out too late.


i hope u find your strength to take the test. Its for your own good.


safe sex always.


Bong 

SAFE PARTEEEING?

bilang isang aktibong advocate sa hiv/aids awareness, bahagi ng aking mga ginagawa ang bigyang suporta and mga taong nangangailangan ng tulong at impormasyon tungkol sa usapin ng hiv/aids sa pilipinas.  kasama na rito ang magbigay suporta sa mga taong bagong diagnose na hiv positive.

noong isang araw, dahil matagal ko na rin di nakakamusta ang isang kliyenteng newly diagnosed na pusit, naisipan ko syang i-text ---

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bong:  hello mike, kamusta ka na?

mike: i am good po! parteed yesterday, but made sure i wore a condom. kawawa naman madadali ko eh. LOL!

bong: thats cool. are you done with ur baseline  lab tests na? are you under arvs na?

(no response)

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i felt disappointed with mike, mukhang he's back in his old ways, even his condition does not stop him from changing his ways.

at the same time i felt so helpless, nalulungkot at sobrang naaapektuhan ako, kasi alam ko there's a 90% chance this mode of transmission is exactly how i got infected.

i hope soon i get the chance to talk to him sincerely, i dont know his real story pa mahirap mangaral, he doesnt trust me yet, he doesn't know me.  wish ko na lang pag nangailangan sya ng makakausap at tulong, sa akin sya lumapit.

ito ang aking diary

BONG
  

Bloody Question

QUESTION: drying of blood. when small drop blood on houshold things and we touched the things then blood goes into open wound..what is the risk to cause hiv ?? small drop of blood of hiv survival outside the body??

RESPONSE: from Dr. McGowan

There is no real risk from the dried blood. There is very little HIV in a drop of blood and CDC laboratory studies have shown that drying HIV reduces the viral amounts by 90 to 99 percent within several hours. No one has ever been infected after exposure to HIV from being exposed to HIV from their surroundings.

Best, Joe

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